The Secret Life of Bees

by Sue Monk Kidd

Forgiveness, Healing, , Love, and Wholeness

Read this NOW. If you are a mother, daughter, sister...Read this life changing book! This is a powerful story that should be read and discussed by women from all walks of life. Put this on this list for your Book Discussion Group. My copy has a wonderful section designed for discussion groups. I used the questions to help me further digest and contemplate the words, the story, and their application to my life.

Sue Monk Kidd is a brilliant author.

Here are some of my favorite excerpts:

"People, in general, would rather die than forgive. It's that hard. If God said in plain language, "I'm giving you a choice, forgive or die,", a lot of people would go ahead and order their coffin."

"People can start out one way, and by the time life gets through with them they end up completely different."

"If you need something from somebody, always give that person a way to hand it to you."

"You have to find a mother inside yourself. We all do. Even if we already have a mother, we still have to find this part of ourselves inside."

Speaking of The Virgin Mother Mary (She was at the center of the worship in this book. This wisdom applies to the power of God, our Heavenly Father and his son, Jesus Christ)

"When you are unsure of yourself.....when you start pulling back in doubt and small living, she's the one inside saying, "Get up from there and live like the glorious girl you are. She's the power inside you, you understand?"

"And whatever it is that keeps widening your heart, that's Mary, too, not only the power inside you but the love. And when you get down to it, Lily, that's the only purpose grand enough for a human life. Not just to love--but to persist in love."

"She will suddenly rise, and when she does, she does not go up, up into the sky, but further and further inside me. August says she goes into the holes life has gouged out of us." (Speaking of the Assumption of Mary)

"She is a muscle of love, this Mary."

Speaking of meeting her mother (who died when she was 4 I don't want to give too much of the story away)

"The next ten thousand years she would fix my hair. She would brush it into such at tower of beauty, people all over heaven would drop their hard just to admire it. You can tell which girls lack mothers by the look of their hair."

I will be forever grateful for the day last week when this book jumped off the shelf at me. It was practically screaming... READ ME TODAY, and that is what I did as we travelled to and from Gainesville.I have had it on my "to read" list for months.

What appears to be a simple story told by a fourteen year old girl, Lily, is a powerful message. The pages are filled with wisdom, healing, and depth.

Keep a pencil, highlighter, and/or journal close by as you read, you will want to make notes or mark the areas of impact and interest to you!

Ask a friend or a group to read it with you and then set aside a large chunk of time for discussion. (A Box of tissues should accompany you to the discussion)

Have you read this book?

If so, did you enjoy it?

Did you see the movie?

What are some of your favorite books?

The Healing Power of Forgivness

Sunday morning, April 1, in LDS General Conference,

President James E.Faust , delivered a

powerful message for the entire world, yet at that moment, it was for me.

With my husband being of Amish heritage, I related to President Faust's account of the Amish School House killings of October 2006 at a very personal level. I have a great love and respect for the Amish, their way of life, their values, and the way they completely embrace the Lord as evidenced in the way they treat others and conduct their daily lives. On several occasions, my family and I have visited the town of Sugar Creek, OH, and surrounding areas. Going about town side by side the Amish and Mennonite is a fascinating experience for me. The spirit of love, cooperation, industry, and faith permeates the area. This is due to a people who understand who they are and what they are about. They embrace and live lives centered in the Lord at every level.

Easter Sunday, I decided to use this message as the Easter Lesson for the 12 & 13 Year old Young Women I teach each Sunday.

The Young Women entered the room to see all of my authentic Amish quilts on display. (I am totally an object lesson, "create an atmosphere" teacher)

As an introduction, I spoke about the quilts, the women who made them, and the Amish custom of "on purpose" creating a flaw in each quilt. This symbolizes the need to improve and repent in each of our lives. The flaw is so small that generally only the creator of the quilt knows where to find it. Like our lives, we all think every one else has it "all together"--no flaws--just us. Yet every one has an area they feel inadequate in and has a need for improvement.(The quilts could provide many backgrounds for teaching)

I did not spend too much time on this introduction as I wanted to get to the heart of President Faust's message. It was absolutely a perfect Easter and every day message. Whatever faith you are, when you read this message, it will change your life. As a class, we studied this message in depth and discussed it's application to us at many levels.

Acts of forgiveness take a years, and in many cases, a life time for many of us. We spend so much energy nursing hurt, pain, and grudges, that we do not use our energy to love and move forward in other areas of life. In many cases, forgiving others is easier than forgiving ourselves.

The instant forgiveness of the Amish Community was, to me, a miracle that changed the world forever. Why? Most of us do not consider that sort of forgiveness on the earth at this time in history. That level of forgiveness was recorded "in Bible Times" oh so long ago, however, no-- that was now! As a world, we witnessed a miracle of perfect forgiveness.

Every sentence, every paragraph of this life-changing message is full of wisdom.

Throughout the months of teaching these delightful Young Women, I have shared with them examples of times when others have caused me great pain, harm, or hurt and the temptation is to use my energy to "lash out" and "get even" I am able to look them in the eyes and tell them of the difficulties of moving on and forgiving, yet also the beauty and peace of loving and praying for your enemies and those who harm you.

I actually had an experience while serving Stake Young Women President when a parent threatened my life at Girls Camp. Knowing I had to keep the spirit of the Lord in the Camp, I could not, for one second, consider fear or retaliation. I spent an entire night praying for this parent. After hours of this, I had such a love and empathy for this person that still exists today. (Much longer story than this Reader's Digest version)

Other times the hurts from the words, actions, choices, and misjudgements of others, even family members come and require me to move on, let go and rise above, even when I have been the one harmed, not the one who made a poor judgement or decision.

As mentioned, this can be a life long process, one that takes energy and soul searching. Moving on and forgiving is an incredibly liberating experience. Sometimes the person who harms you continues in that pattern, this I know from personal experience. In those cases, you will know when you must stay out of that person's path or reach of influence. Their choices are NOT your fault, even though you are caused great hurt or pain. Remove yourself from their path, let go of grudges and hurt, do not allow their choices to hold you hostage. Choose to use your energy to love, experience peace and move forward.

With the desire to fully digest this message, I printed a copy for daily study and reference. It is perhaps, the best message I have heard from President Faust. Even with his age and failing health, the strength and power he presented was life changing. Grateful am I for the inspiring words of President Faust on The Healing Power of Forgiveness.